It’s another Bisexual Appreciation Week, or Bi Week. This year has seen a little more coverage than previous ones, and that is a good sign. More eyes and ears means another chance to help people gain awareness and understanding. We are not ‘more privileged’, ‘fence-sitting’, nor are we ‘indecisive’. We are who we are, no different than anyone else.
The coverage is great, as is the fact that more and more celebrities are coming out and being honest with it, despite the possibility of backlash from both sides of the rainbow flag. Of course, I take this with a few grains of salt, because I’m why I can’t have nice things. My reasoning comes from the fact that I hate celebrity culture. I don’t give two shits about what famous people do and why. Sure it’s mildly interesting,once in awhile, when someone famous has a similar interest or some strange thing they like to do. When they do good things, or horrible things, it’s nice to know if we should support their projects. But we, collectively, put waaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy too much on famous people, to the point that some folks treat them better than family (the good kind of family, not the ones wish you weren’t related to). But I understand why we need to have our celebrities come out and to be open and honest with us. Our media is part of our view of the world, and in some ways, helps shape who we wish to be. It also shapes our status quos, for better or for worse, and that’s why it is important that we have out celebrities.
The other thing I’ve been thinking about is that in the last year, I’ve seen our Bi+ community come together more than ever. We have, not only been building stronger connections, but we’ve also made more of a point to reach out to the ‘+’ in Bi+. As always, sexuality is a spectrum, and as spectrums do, there are overlaps. One can be Asexual and Bi, for example. I am glad that we are doing more to make sure people are not being left out.
To my Pansexual folks, I see Bisexual as non-binary as Pansexual. I don’t buy into this Bi vs. Pan malarkey. We are both valid and both family. And ultimately I would like for all of us, and I do mean ALL, to be family. As we strive for awareness, as we build our community, and as we reach out to everyone else, let’s resist the urge to circle the wagons. Yes we face oppression. Often times it’s from the people we expected the most support from. If we get shit from the other letters of the acronym (LGBTQ+, for those who forgot your code books) lets resist the urge to turn nasty about it. Let’s resist the urge to bitch and bicker about labels and flags. They are there to help us identify and represent, not to fuel descent. Maybe we can be the ones who finally connect all the communities into one. Maybe we can show the haters a more appealing point of view.
I dunno, man. Some days it feels like a pipe dream, other times it feels like we’re almost there. I guess the main thing, for at least this week (because we gotta take it week to week, moment to moment, sometimes) is keep each other safe. It’s dangerous out there, for us, for our allies, for our family, and every one else. Keep an eye out on each other, and yourself. Keep getting the word out. Let people know that we are just as valid as anyone else.
….aaaaand now shameless self-promotion time!! (didn’t think you were going to get away that easy did you??)
Everyone’s favorite weird uncle has had a story published in this year’s Shadows & Light Anthology. It’s a story, set in the future (or is it….) about man’s effect on nature, and nature responding in kind. The more I think about, it seems to have a lot of parallels with what I just spoke of above. (Where do writer’s get their ideas? I guess you just found out.) It’s a future history told by a man who lived in the midst of a biomechanical evolution.
Get it here at Amazon or Createspace.
Don’t forget to buy a Bi book. Pale Winter Sun is an appropriate read for this Bi Week. Also check out A.M. Leibowitz, and Bi-Bliography for more lists of Bi+ authors.
Also appropriate for this week’s festivities is to stop over at Our Stories at The Bicast. We are collecting your stories. We need a chronicle of our lives and our community. We can learn from each other, and sometimes, just getting the tales of our own experiences is as cathartic as hearing others. Listen or submit here ==> https://thebicast.org/category/our-stories/
Remember kids; stay in school, don’t drink and drive, and let’s all be safe out there.