Bi Week II: Electric Bugalloo

It’s another Bisexual Appreciation Week, or Bi Week.  This year has seen a little more coverage than previous ones, and that is a good sign.  More eyes and ears means another chance to help people gain awareness and understanding.  We are not ‘more privileged’, ‘fence-sitting’, nor are we ‘indecisive’. We are who we are, no different than anyone else.

The coverage is great, as is the fact that more and more celebrities are coming out and being honest with it, despite the possibility of backlash from both sides of the rainbow flag.  Of course, I take this with a few grains of salt, because I’m why I can’t have nice things.  My reasoning comes from the fact that I hate celebrity culture.  I don’t give two shits about what famous people do and why.  Sure it’s mildly interesting,once in awhile, when someone famous has a similar interest or some strange thing they like to do.  When they do good things, or horrible things, it’s nice to know if we should support their projects.  But we, collectively, put waaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy too much on famous people, to the point that some folks treat them better than family (the good kind of family, not the ones wish you weren’t related to).  But I understand why we need to have our celebrities come out and to be open and honest with us.  Our media is part of our view of the world, and in some ways, helps shape who we wish to be.  It also shapes our status quos, for better or for worse, and that’s why it is important that we have out celebrities.

The other thing I’ve been thinking about is that in the last year, I’ve seen our Bi+ community come together more than ever.  We have, not only been building stronger connections, but we’ve also made more of a point to reach out to the ‘+’ in Bi+.  As always, sexuality is a spectrum, and as spectrums do, there are overlaps.  One can be Asexual and Bi, for example.  I am glad that we are doing more to make sure people are not being left out.

To my Pansexual folks, I see Bisexual as non-binary as Pansexual.  I don’t buy into this Bi vs. Pan malarkey.  We are both valid and both family. And ultimately I would like for all of us, and I do mean ALL, to be family.  As we strive for awareness, as we build our community, and as we reach out to everyone else, let’s resist the urge to circle the wagons.  Yes we face oppression.  Often times it’s from the people we expected the most support from.  If we get shit from the other letters of the acronym (LGBTQ+, for those who forgot your code books) lets resist the urge to turn nasty about it. Let’s resist the urge to bitch and bicker about labels and flags.  They are there to help us identify and represent, not to fuel descent. Maybe we can be the ones who finally connect all the communities into one.  Maybe we can show the haters a more appealing point of view.

I dunno, man.  Some days it feels like a pipe dream, other times it feels like we’re almost there.  I guess the main thing, for at least this week (because we gotta take it week to week, moment to moment, sometimes) is keep each other safe.  It’s dangerous out there, for us, for our allies, for our family, and every one else.  Keep an eye out on each other, and yourself.  Keep getting the word out.  Let people know that we are just as valid as anyone else.


….aaaaand now shameless self-promotion time!! (didn’t think you were going to get away that easy did you??)

Everyone’s favorite weird uncle has had a story published in this year’s Shadows & Light Anthology.  It’s a story, set in the future (or is it….) about man’s effect on nature, and nature responding in kind.  The more I think about, it seems to have a lot of parallels with what I just spoke of above.  (Where do writer’s get their ideas?  I guess you just found out.)  It’s  a future history told by a man who lived in the midst of a biomechanical evolution.
Get it here at Amazon or Createspace.

Don’t forget to buy a Bi book.  Pale Winter Sun is an appropriate read for this Bi Week.  Also check out A.M. Leibowitz, and Bi-Bliography for more lists of Bi+ authors.

Also appropriate for this week’s festivities is to stop over at Our Stories at The Bicast.  We are collecting your stories.  We need a chronicle of our lives and our community.  We can learn from each other, and sometimes, just getting the tales of our own experiences is as cathartic as hearing others.  Listen or submit here ==>

Remember kids; stay in school, don’t drink and drive, and let’s all be safe out there.


Bi Week musings and why I put a list of resources in Pale Winter Sun

This week is Bi Week.  It’s a week where bisexuals try and remind people what the ‘B’ in LGBT means and raise awareness to tear down some stigmas.  I suppose it seems fitting that Pale Winter Sun came out just a few weeks before, especially since one of the characters is coming terms with his bisexuality.  It can be a tricky thing to do, coming to terms with who we are.  More so when we are young and not to the standards of the status quo.  One of the biggest concerns with bisexual youth is violence, depression, and abandonment.  But it is far from exclusive to just bi youth.  Teenagers in general have staggeringly high statistics in these areas.  LGBT+ youth doubly so.

I wrote PWS because of this.  To be honest the idea fills me such sadness and anger.  Our youth deserve better, as do we all.  I also wrote PWS because of an amazing young woman that I am blessed to have in my life.  I just wanted to do my part, using what meager abilities that I have, to make the world a little bit better for her.  To show her that things are dark but there is hope.  That life can kick you around, but strength and resilience can pull you through.  I can only hope that others see it similarly as well.

My friend, and Bi-activist extraordinaire, Lynnette Mcfadzen suggested adding resources to the book.  I couldn’t put them in fast enough.  A story is one thing, even with a good message.  But sometimes people need help, a hand to hold, and there are a lot of people and organizations out there to do that.  The list I added is far from comprehensive but for those who might need it, it’s a start.  I’m going to add the list here as well.  I may do my part for the bi community, but in the broader view, I don’t give a shit about your sexuality, religion, race, gender, shoe size, or preference of toothpaste.  We’re all in this together and we need to start working as one if we’re going to do anything worth a damn.  I believe that with all my heart.  If we can’t foster that in our youth, then when else to we start?

So hats off to my other bisexual peoples on this Bi Week and any other week.  I hope we can soon come to a time when such things are needless and archaic.  That for once and forever we finally stop squabbling over stupid shit and concentrate on more important issues.  (Like buying books from starving authors or buy them a beer once in awhile.  Things like that)

Resources for LGBT+ youth and beyond.

It’s a rough world for everyone.  More so for those who don’t fit in gender and orientational norms.  I’ve listed a few resources if you feel alone and need some help.  While this list is geared toward youth in need, parents and adults who would like to some understanding can also check out these as well.  If you are in crisis or in trouble, always try to reach out.  If you feel there is no one to reach out to, keep the below in mind.  Just know: THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE TO REACH OUT TO!

LGBT+ Youth Resources


The – (podcasting for the bisexual+ communtiy) – (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) – (Intersex youth)


Trans Student Educational Resources


Suicide / Crisis


Text anonymous crisis counselor 741741


Remember kids: stay in school, don’t drink and drive, and let’s be safe out there.